My Happy Money Journey: money for mid life women with Phoebe Blamey

S4 E30 Hold It Like You Own It: How to Invest, Add to Super, and Spot a Scam Before you lose it all

ou have a bit of money to work with, and you have realised you are the one deciding what happens to it now. That is a real shift, and it comes with a question almost every woman asks me like a confession: how do I know what to do, and how do I know I am not about to get ripped off?
This episode is the answer. Over the next couple of decades an enormous amount of wealth is going to land in the hands of women, through inheritance, through longer lives, through our own earning. We are going to be the ones holding it. This one is about learning to hold it like you own it, not nervously, not so cautiously it never moves for you, but with the confidence of someone who knows how to check.
In this episode
Why the largest transfer of wealth to women in history means it is time to move from spending well to holding money like you own it
The one-and-a-half-million-dollar story that shows exactly what an unregulated scheme looks like from the inside, and why it fools capable people
What "regulated" really means, and why an Australian Financial Services Licence is the signal, not the polish
How to start investing without studying the stock market, using exchange traded funds, micro-investing, and a first amount so small a wobble won't cost you sleep
The super carry-forward rule, the deadline nobody tells you about, and why this financial year matters
What people get wrong about crypto, plus the withdrawal test that exposes a trap wearing an investment's clothes
The three questions before your money moves anywhere
Are they licensed or registered? AFSL, ASIC, MoneySmart, AUSTRAC. It is free and it takes ten minutes. If they are not on the register, the conversation is over, no matter how good a friend or how persuasive they are.
Can I get my money out? Legitimate money lets you leave. New fees, new taxes, new delays, and just-one-more-payment to withdraw is an alarm bell.
Is it going where I think it is going? Is the name on the screen the same name as the business you are transferring to? Is your identity being checked? Are there real checks at all?
Not one of those questions needs you to be a financial expert. They need you to be the one holding the wheel, willing to ask out loud.
Where to check (all free, all official)
MoneySmart (moneysmart.gov.au): the government's own money site. Search the Financial Advisers Register to confirm an adviser is legitimate, and the investor alert list for companies and websites not to be trusted.
ASIC professional registers: look up whether a business holds an AFSL. If they claim to be licensed, verify it yourself rather than trusting the brochure.
AUSTRAC: check whether a crypto exchange is registered as a digital currency exchange before you move anything near it.
AFCA, the Australian Financial Complaints Authority: where you take a complaint if something goes wrong inside the system.
Scamwatch: search a company name here. Thirty seconds can save you everything.
The numbers, checked
The concessional (before-tax) super cap for the 2026 to 2027 financial year is $32,500. It was $30,000 until the end of June.
Carry-forward lets you use unused cap from up to five years back, provided your total super balance was under $500,000 on 30 June of the previous year. You use the oldest unused year first.
The oldest slice still open to you is your unused cap from 2021 to 2022, and it expires on 30 June 2027. Use it or lose it.
Crypto exchanges operating in Australia must be AUSTRAC registered, and platforms are being brought into the same AFSL licensing the rest of the finance industry uses. Rules are still tightening.
Every situation is different, and the rules change. Confirm current figures with the ATO and MoneySmart, and get advice for your own circumstances before acting.
Your one thing this week
Log into your super. Look at the balance, look at what is going in, and see whether you have any carry-forward room. If you do, get on the phone to your fund, because your fund has advisers you can talk to. If you have a self-managed fund or serious wealth, speak with your financial adviser.
Go deeper
If you want to keep building this kind of confidence with women doing the same work, come and join us in the Happy Money Society. It is where a single episode turns into a habit. Find it at phoebeblamey.com.au.
A quick, important note
This is general information and education only. It is not personal financial advice. Rules change, and every one of us has a completely different situation, so check the current rules with MoneySmart and the ATO, and speak with a licensed financial adviser and your accountant about your own circumstances.

S4 E29 Yep, another EOFY Podcast!

It is the end of financial year, and if this week has been all receipts, logbooks and bookkeeper calls, you have had plenty of money conversations already. Every one of them was with someone else. The tax office. Your accountant. A portal at ten at night. This episode is about the one conversation you have not had yet, the one with yourself, and why the first of July is the cleanest fresh start you will get all year. Grab a pen, put the kettle on, and let's have it.
 
The four conversations to have with yourself before the new financial year gets going:
Where am I right now? Work out your net worth. What you own minus what you owe: home equity, super, savings, investments, loans, cards. Most of us know our income cold and go blank on our net worth. Log in and find your actual super balance, even if it is confronting.
What do I actually want? Stop asking only "can I afford it" and start asking "what am I building." Picture three pools of money: lifestyle (the everyday), project (the renovation, course, trip, business) and future (super, investments, assets). Trouble starts when they all swim in one account and the project quietly eats the future. Name the thing you keep not letting yourself do, then decide which pool it belongs to.
Who do I need to become? We change our behaviour when it matches who we believe we are. Move from "I'm hopeless with the money stuff" to the present tense: "I'm someone who takes leadership of my financial future. I'm someone who knows her own numbers." Nobody was born knowing this.
Who am I going to say it to? The first three happen in your head. This one has to leave it. Text your sister, book the call with your super fund or accountant, ring a financial counsellor if you are stuck. The women who talk about money make better decisions about money.
The number worth knowing: the ASFA benchmark for a comfortable retirement for a single homeowner now sits around $630,000 in super (ASFA Retirement Standard, updated February 2026). Knowing you are behind is not the bad news. Not knowing is.
On the downsizer super strategy mentioned in the episode: if you are 55 or older and sell a home you have owned for 10 years or more, you may be able to contribute up to $300,000 per person ($600,000 for a couple) from the sale proceeds into super as a downsizer contribution, within 90 days of settlement. It sits outside the usual concessional and non-concessional contribution caps, which is what makes it powerful for topping up super later in life. It does count toward your total super balance and can affect Age Pension entitlements, so it is worth getting advice on the timing. Full rules and the form are on the ATO page linked below.
Your next step this week
Pick one of the four conversations. Not all of them. One. Have the honest one and find your super balance, or have the out-loud one and text one person the words "I'm finally getting on top of my money." One conversation this week changes which version of you walks into the new financial year.
Links and resources
The Happy Money Society (now live, free and paid options): phoebeblamey.com.au — links also in the episode notes
Work with Phoebe: phoebeblamey.com.au
ATO — downsizer super contributions: ato.gov.au
ASFA Retirement Standard (the comfortable-retirement benchmarks): superannuation.asn.au
ASIC Moneysmart (free, independent money guidance and calculators): moneysmart.gov.au
National Debt Helpline (free, confidential financial counselling): 1800 007 007, ndh.org.au
A quick note
Everything in this episode is general information to get you thinking. It is not personal financial advice and it does not take your own circumstances into account. Please get advice tailored to you before making any big financial moves.
Until next week, whatever you're doing, wherever you're doing it, and whoever you're doing it with, enjoy your journey.

S4 E28 Be the center of your financial universe

Remember Cristina Yang turning to Meredith, right as she was leaving the show for good, telling her not to let what someone else wants eclipse what she needs. He's very dreamy, but he's not the sun. You are.
We forget that. There is even a term for it: role engulfment. We get so caught up in the doing for everyone else that our own self, and our own financial life, fades into the background, and it costs us. One day you are comforting a friend who has just been through a brutal divorce, the lights go on, and you think, this could be me.
This episode is about taking the wheel. If you have been carrying the worry without ever holding the wheel, this one is for you. Phoebe walks through why so many capable, high-earning women end up financially invisible in their own lives, why that gap is exactly where women get hurt, and the five things you can do this week, on one page, at your kitchen table, to put yourself back in the centre of your own financial universe. You are not the moon orbiting everyone else's money. You are the sun.
Why this matters for you now
Australia is moving through its largest ever transfer of wealth between generations, estimated at around $3.5 trillion (some research puts it closer to $5 trillion), with roughly 65% of it expected to land with women. Family money tends to flow to the eldest daughter. It can arrive through divorce. It can arrive through the death of a partner. The women who get hurt are not the careless ones. They are the ones who never knew where the money was. This episode gets you ready to hold it.
What you will take away
Your money map. How to work out your net worth in one sitting, and why you cannot run a universe you have never looked at.
What is yours. The difference between money in your name and money in joint names, and why every financially adult woman needs her own account.
Your protection documents. A current will, a binding death benefit nomination on your super, and an enduring power of attorney, and why your super does not follow your will.
Your safety buffer. The runway money in your own name that means you are never trapped in a situation you want to leave.
Your dashboard. The handful of money concepts that let you ask a good question and recognise a bad answer, without becoming a financial planner.
Plus: who belongs in your financial universe, how to choose advisers you trust instead of inheriting ones you do not, and why talking to your friends about money is one of the most powerful financial moves you can make.

S4 E27 The things you need to know about the Federal Budget 2026

The 12 May federal budget made big moves on family trusts, capital gains tax and negative gearing. Phoebe walks through what actually changed, who it affects, and the steps to take now, with women at the centre of the conversation.
The federal budget handed down on 12 May proposed three major tax changes. First, from 1 July 2028, discretionary (family) trusts will pay a minimum of 30 percent tax on their taxable income, effectively ending the income splitting strategy that has run Australian family businesses for fifty years. Second, from 1 July 2027, the 50 percent capital gains tax discount is being replaced by cost base indexation with a 30 percent minimum tax on the gain. Third, negative gearing losses on residential property purchased after 7.30pm on 12 May 2026 will only be deductible against other residential property income, not against salary or wages. None of these measures are law yet. Women are often the beneficiaries of family trusts they did not set up, which makes the trust change especially worth understanding.
This episode is general in nature and is not personal financial or tax advice. None of these measures are law yet; they are proposed. Phoebe's key sources were the ATO explainer sheets. Speak to your accountant or licensed financial adviser about your own situation.

S4 E26 Bank of Mum and Dad: How to Help Your Adult Children Without Wrecking Your Retirement

The Bank of Mum and Dad is now somewhere between the fifth and ninth largest mortgage lender in Australia. That's not a metaphor. That's Finder research from 2025.
Seventeen percent of first-home buyers now receive help from their parents to save a deposit — up from eleven percent in 2022. Seventy-five percent of that help is gifted, not loaned. And the average gift sits at $74,040… though in real life, as a former mortgage broker, Phoebe regularly saw two, three, four times that figure cross the table.
And it's not just deposits. It's the wedding. The school fees. The second car. The credit card debt. The bond money when they suddenly had to move. The family holiday you "treated everyone" to.
For many Australian women in their 50s and 60s, this is now the second largest line item in their financial life — after their own mortgage or rent.
And here's the part nobody is talking about: we didn't sign up for this the way our mothers did. They raised us, packed us off with a Vegemite jar of cutlery and a casserole dish, and were essentially financially done. We're mothering and funding well into our 60s and 70s — and we're quietly tipping in without saying a word at book club, at dinner, or sometimes even to our own partner.
In this episode, Phoebe Blamey unpacks one of the most important — and least discussed — financial issues facing midlife Australian women right now. Because the maths is brutal. The average woman aged 60–64 has around $318,000 in super. A comfortable single retirement needs closer to $595,000. The gap between those two numbers is exactly the kind of gap created by 10 or 15 years of "just helping the kids out."
You'll hear:
The three biggest financial blast radiuses of getting Bank of Mum and Dad wrong — including the $200,000 deposit that walks straight out the door in a property settlement, and the inheritance fight you create from beyond the grave without ever meaning to
Why the Family Court treats gifts and loans completely differently in Australia — and the simple, inexpensive paperwork that protects your child (and your money) if a marriage ever goes sideways
The five conversations to have at the kitchen table on a Sunday morning, when nobody is in crisis — before the phone rings late at night
Why your only job when your adult child arrives in marital distress is to listen — and the one exception where the rules completely change
How to have the fairness conversation while everyone is still alive (because fair and equal are not the same thing — and the version of this conversation that destroys sibling relationships is always the one held silently, in a will)
The single biggest mindset shift that makes all of this stick: you are the lighthouse, not the lifeboat
This episode is for the woman who is capable, educated, earning well, and increasingly realising she needs to be the one making the calls — not deferring to a husband, an adviser, or a default "yes" when her adult children ask. Because the greatest transfer of generational wealth in history is moving toward women, and learning to hold money — not just spend it or give it away — is the skill of this decade.
Decide your line now, while the weather is calm and the seas aren't stormy.
You can love your children ferociously and still hold your line. Those two things are not in conflict. The line is love.
Disclaimer: The information in this podcast is general in nature and does not constitute personal financial advice or recommendations.

S4 E25 Who's afraid of beng the eldest daughter?

When my friend Kate (not her real name) broke down on the phone to me three weeks into managing her father's estate, and the line she said that I have heard from a hundred women: "I'm doing all this and I haven't even looked at my own super in years." I had one thought!
There's a phrase doing the rounds; eldest daughter syndrome! It's funny on Instagram until you realise the finance industry has been tracking the same thing for years, and it has some really scary implications for our generation. 
JBWere call it the oldest daughter effect. When wealth transfers in an Australian family, it's the eldest daughter who is most likely to end up managing the estate - roughly 50% more likely than other siblings. She didn't ask for it. She's just the one everyone already trusts to deal with things.
In this episode, we unpack what happens when the woman who has carried everyone, suddenly has to carry the money too. We look at the largest intergenerational wealth transfer in Australian history — somewhere between $3.5 and $5 trillion and the staggering fact that about 65% of it is heading into the hands of women. Most of whom have never been the financial decision-maker in their own lives. If we want the world to change we need to understand what this means. 
We talk about the three disasters that no one talks about and drain inherited wealth: the wrong-beneficiary super, the death-benefits tax mistake, and the inherited adviser nobody chose. We walk through five things you can do this week to step out of the eldest-daughter trap and into your own financial authority, including the one nobody tells you about: breaking the silence.
This is the episode to send to your sister, your mother, your daughter, and the friend who has been carrying it all alone because taking this on gives us the opportunity to impact the world.  
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S4 E24 How to Stop Overspending and Start Making Smarter Money Decisions

Think women are bad with money? Think again.
In this episode, we unpack the truth about spending habits, financial confidence, and why intelligent spending—not restriction—is the real key to taking control of your money.
If you’ve ever felt guilty after buying something, avoided checking your bank account, or swung between being overly frugal and overspending, you’re not alone. And more importantly—you’re not broken.
Phoebe shares real-life examples of how intentional spending works in practice, including how she saved over $300 on headphones and cut the cost of a 20-book series down to $40—without sacrificing quality or outcomes.
This episode introduces a simple but powerful 4-question framework to help you make smarter financial decisions on any purchase over $50. It’s practical, realistic, and designed for women who want to feel in control of their money again.
Because financial confidence doesn’t come from earning more—it comes from knowing how to decide.

S4 E23 The money conversations to have when things get too hard...

If you’re suddenly finding yourself pausing before you open your banking app, this episode will hit close to home.
Because the pressure is real right now,  rising costs, inconsistent income, tax debt, family responsibilities… it adds up. For most of us, it doesn’t explode overnight — it quietly builds until things feel tight, overwhelming, or just not sustainable anymore.
In this episode, Phoebe Blamey breaks down what’s actually happening beneath financial stress, especially for capable women who are used to handling everything.
We talk about why smart, successful women still end up in financial hardship… how fear and avoidance start to shape your decisions… and why confidence drops long before the numbers are fully out of control.
This isn’t a “budget better” conversation.
It’s a real look at how financial pressure builds — and more importantly, how to take back control without shame or panic.
You’ll learn how to recognise the early signs of financial stress, what’s really going on psychologically when you start avoiding money, and the exact conversations to have when things feel unmanageable — whether that’s with your partner, your lender, or the ATO.
If you’re dealing with tax debt, cash flow issues, or that constant background anxiety about money… this episode will help you step out of avoidance and into action.
Because you’re not failing.
You’re responding to pressure.
And once you understand that — you can change it.

S4 E22 You don't know what you don't know until you do!

You’re smart. Capable. Experienced. You run businesses, families, teams, and entire lives.
So why does the conversation about money still make you go quiet?
In this episode, Phoebe breaks down one of the biggest hidden issues facing women — not a lack of intelligence, but a lack of financial language. When you don’t fully understand money, you don’t lean in… you retreat. And that avoidance quietly costs you power, confidence, and control.
This is not about shame. This is about clarity.
Phoebe walks through six essential money concepts that most people think they “should” understand — but often don’t — and explains them in simple, real-world terms. More importantly, she unpacks how getting it wrong creates fear, and how fear leads to avoidance.
And why that cycle stops here.
Because money isn’t about being good or bad.It’s about understanding the rules — and deciding to learn them.

S4 E21 Who are you and what do you want?

If you’ve ever reached a point where you’re wondering what comes next, this conversation will help you reconnect with your own direction and start designing the next chapter intentionally.
In this episode of My Happy Money Journey, Phoebe explores why this question can feel so difficult — and why midlife is actually the most powerful moment to answer it.
You’ll learn how identity, motivation and even brain science influence the direction of your life. Phoebe breaks down powerful ideas from psychology explaining how clarity about your future changes the opportunities you see and the actions you take.
The episode also explores why intrinsic not extrinsic motivation is so powerful and why many women spend decades pursuing goals driven by expectations rather than personal meaning.
Most importantly, Phoebe explains why you don't need a million dollars but you do need clarity! Financial clarity creates agency  the ability to make decisions about your life without fear.
If you’ve ever reached a point where you’re wondering what comes next, this conversation will help you reconnect with your own direction and start designing the next chapter intentionally.